How To Deal With Self Pity
Saturday, May 5th, 2012“
But first, a little background information.
Self pity exists (just barely) as a real emotion. All real emotions have both a positive and a negative side. The (tiny!) positive side of pity lies with its powers of anesthesia.
Self pity numbs the pain. It puts you to sleep. It wraps you in a cocoon of mush – and keeps you ‘safe’ from intrusion. If you could bottle it, it would be considered a ‘mood altering substance’ and thus available only by prescription!
In fact, I believe self pity to be the single most addictive thing in the world, partly because no one will admit to having it in the first place.
Much easier to admit you’re a heroin addict than a pity addict, don’t you think?… The very powers that make self pity so necessary for childhood and adolescence also make it so repulsive for the grownup.
Children NEED self pity. Many kids needed it for their very survival. They were hurting, they looked around, and one of the very few tools available to them was self pity. It served them well.
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From: (pity secrets) http://www.join-the-fun.com/self-pity.html